i never wanted to get married until suddenly i did.

All it took was a Trump presidency and a global pandemic — kidding, but also.. not.

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Two weeks and a day ago, I married Stefin, my boyfriend of almost 12 years, in a small, private garden ceremony.

If you had shown me photos of our beautiful day, gazing …